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Going Under The Knife…

Whew, what a month this has been! I don’t even know where to start…

I guess some background would help!

Ever since Ryan was four years old, he’s been a soccer player. He played year-round on club teams at a national level, and his pipe dream as a kid was to be a professional soccer player.

Look at that blond hair! (bottom row, second from right)

By the time Ryan hit his late teens, his movement slowly became limited due to pins-and-needles type pain in his shins, surrounded by numb feet and extreme tightness in his calf muscles. Coaches and trainers always told him he suffered from shin-splints, so Ryan never complained, thinking what he had was not a serious issue.

Fast-forward 10+ years, Ryan wised-up (ahem, and met me) and realized that maybe it wasn’t normal to have pain during every-day activity. Little things such as walking through the grocery store, climbing up stairs, standing on his feet for a few hours, and even shifting gears in the car became a challenge.

As Ryan matured into his adult frame, the tightness and pain in his legs escalated, and he realized the shin-splints diagnosis didn’t make sense, especially since he was no longer active like he used to be and sitting at a majority of the day at a desk job.

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This shows his calf size almost 10 years after he stopped playing soccer, so you can imagine how they were when he was actually playing…

Ryan has spent the past three years visiting different doctors here in Charlotte, and it wasn’t until he saw Dr. Greenapple this past spring that he first learned of compartment syndrome.

When Ryan googled “compartment syndrome” and read the symptoms, he nearly fell out of his seat, as everything described on the page were things he had been experiencing for over a decade. Even more startling, some of the severe effects of the syndrome include loss of limbs and even death, so he knew he couldn’t afford to let it get any worse.

Ryan was diagnosed with Chronic Exertional Compartment Syndrome (CESC) back in April, as the doctor performed the pressure test to determine how serious his case was. Turns out, Ryan was a “worst-case” scenario, needing all 8 compartments relieved. (You can read more about CESC, the different compartments in the leg, and the actual surgery in this academic journal article, here).

After a summer trip to visit his family in Arkansas, a few work trips across the US (he’s been traveling with the U.S. Men’s National Soccer Team for work – lucky guy!!!), and a wedding the last weekend in July, Ryan’s schedule was finally free enough to accommodate surgery and the long recovery to follow.

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Chillaxin’ at Ryan’s parents house in AR for the 4th of July

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My alma mater, Furman Univeristy

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The Happy Couple!

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Epitome of a fun night!

About a month ago – August 1st, to be exact – Ryan underwent a double fasciotomy on both of his lower legs. This surgery aimed to “relieve” all 8 muscle compartments under the shin and calve area of his legs.

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We were counseled about just how invasive and traumatic the surgery would be, so we made sure to prepare ourselves mentally and garner as much support as we could.

They told us short-term recovery would take one month to be walking again, and 6+ months for a full recovery. Now that we are about one month out from surgery, I’d say that is exactly right!

Ryan’s mom came into town the day before the surgery (July 31st) and stayed with us until August 5th. His surgery ended up going about an hour to an hour and a half longer than they expected.

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Me and Ryan’s mom, Rhonda, waiting for Ryan to come out of surgery!

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Two and a half hours later, the surgery was over.

When the doctor came out, he said that when he cut the muscle fascia of each compartment, Ryan’s muscles immediately expanded out to where they “wanted” to go. The doctor said the surgery was definitely going to work in Ryan’s favor.

Ryan’s surgery consisted of 6 incisions that were 6 inches long, each. Two on the outside of each leg on the calve muscles, and one on the inside of each leg. That’s a total of 36 inches of open wounds – three whole feet. THREE!

Ryan’s lower legs were basically held together with stitches and lots (and lots) of bandaging. Talk about painful.

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all wrapped up and ready to go home

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Finally home from surgery

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ice ice baby

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Unwrapped for the first time, day #3. Not looking too shabby!

Needless to say, it was such a blessing to have Ryan’s mom here with us for the first few days after the surgery. She was such a great support, and she even got to be with Ryan on his birthday (August 4th) – the first time they’ve spent his birthday together since early college!

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Birthday cupcakes!

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Peanut butter, Chocolate (x2), and Red Velvet (I die).

The first two weeks were quite brutal for Ryan, pain-wise. He was given hydrocodone, but that only took the edge off the pain. The pain was so bad it would keep him from sleeping, so he felt pretty exhausted 24/7.

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It may look like he is sleeping, but I assure you, he is not. This is what ultimate pain looks like.

Also, Ryan developed a pretty nasty hematoma on the inside, right calf incision on the third day after his surgery, and it’s still there even now.

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Oh hey there, hematoma (Day 4 after surgery)

I even had to leave work and take him to the hospital unexpectedly the Tuesday after his surgery to make sure he wasn’t suffering from any blood clots.

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Unexpected trip to the hospital. “So, uh, can we take these wheels home with us?” (Day 6 after surgery)

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Getting an ultrasound on his lower leg, checking for bloodclots

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So many buttons. So tempting to push.

Ryan has had great support from family, friends, and coworkers. People have brought over food, delivered gift baskets, and have sent cards.

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SO funny!

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Ryan’s best friends since elementary school (who are now married and expecting a baby girl!) sent him this awesome care-package

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Cookie basket from Ryan’s family in Arkansas

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“Just a spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down…”

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So many cards… so much love!

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Ryan’s all-time favorites!

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Gourmet popcorn from Ryan’s grandma

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“I like tur-tels”

His co-workers even organized a “gorilla-gram” (aka, a singing telegram) that completely surprised Ryan one evening after I got home from work. The pink gorilla delivered a pretty clever telegram one of Ryan’s supervisor wrote.

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“Ryan, we want you, no scratch that…we NEED you, to come back to the office”

Ryan also made sure to let those taking care of him know how much he appreciated them. He went above and beyond to show me how much he cared by surprising me with flowers when I got to work one day!

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Goooorgeous!

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Melt my heart.

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Anywho, back to Ryan’s recovery.

The whole  hematoma thing has been the most painful part of Ryan’s recovery process, as it’s presence is keeping him from being able to put pressure on his right foot, therefore making walking quite the struggle. If it weren’t for the hematoma on his right leg, he would be much closer to feeling himself again.

Thankfully, physical therapy has been helping out quite a bit. Ryan always looked forward to his PT appointments as it was the only time he got out of the house (riding in the car was *super* painful due to his legs not being elevated).

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PT at home. With Happy’s leash.

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“What is this using my leash for a non-walking purpose nonsense!?”

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“Don’t even try to explain. I’m not listening”

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More visits to the PT

We had a follow-up appointment with Ryan’s doctor on 8/16 where we learned Ryan might need a second surgery to alleviate the painful and seemingly growing hematoma on his inside, right leg. If the wound didn’t heal up by our next follow-up appointment on 8/23, they were going to go back into that inside right leg incision and drain out the hematoma (shudder).

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Changin’ up the bandages. Right leg still draining quite a bit. (8/16)

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War wounds. (16 days post surgery)

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See the swelling in the right leg? Painful.

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Before putting sterri strips back on (8/16)

A few days after that follow-up appointment, Ryan really took a turn for the better. I’d say it was about 8/21 or 8/22 when he started to actual stand up on his own and attempt to “hobble” around. Leading up to this time, he had been scooting around everywhere on his butt (well, by everywhere, I mean to the bathroom. He hadn’t been in the kitchen since July b/c he couldn’t stand up, and he’d been sleeping on the couch b/c getting up on the bed was too painful).

Needless to say, this whole standing up and hobbling business was a HUGE improvement, even if he wasn’t really putting much pressure on his right leg.

Ryan even attempted to go outside and grab the mail.

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First trip hobbling outside… didn’t even use the crutches! (8/23)

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Success! (And babying that right leg)

We had a follow-up with his doctor this past Thursday 8/23 to see about that second surgery for the hematoma. Thankfully, because the incision the hematoma is surrounding has officially stopped draining  the doctor decided to wait out the hematoma and let it dissolve on its own. Ryan said he’d rather embrace his hobble and be limping for a few months than open up the incision again to extract the hematoma.

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Our latest follow-up visit, 8/23/12

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Right leg… looking so much better!!!

Since our follow-up visit with the doctor this past Thursday (8/23), Ryan has gotten exponentially better. On Saturday (8/25), we ventured out and got him some new running shoes (for support, not for running, ha!) and later that evening we went out to dinner to our favorite Mexican joint.

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Out to eat to celebrate Ryan’s huge jump in progress! (8/25)

Sunday, Ryan offered to drive our rent check down the block (his first time driving since July!) and he declared that it felt the same as sitting on the couch… no extra pain!

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First time back at the wheel!!!!!!!!! 8/26/12

And on Monday? Ryan has had his biggest achievement yet!

He drove himself to work and had his first day back in the office!!!!! (Ryan’s been working from home for the past week since 8/20 – and before that, he was on short-term medical leave. Let’s just say Happy has been in heaven this past month having him home all day– talk about quality time!

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Man’s best friend. Woof. (Picture from 8/4/12)

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Someone was spoiled while I was off at work…

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Feeding the dog by candle light… because that’s what happens when Ryan’s bored…

I am seriously so proud of the huge progress he has made since last Tuesday/Wednesday when he was last scooting around our apartment to get everywhere. It broke my heart into 1000 pieces seeing him in so much pain. I even broke down crying in the car driving to work one morning because I had to leave him when he was in a state feeling so, so sad (early August).  Seriously y’all. Seeing loved ones in pain is one of the most heart-wrenching things. I am so, so thankful that those first stages of recovery are behind us.

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Relaxing and elevating on the couch after his first full day back at the office! (8/27/12)

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Check out that hematoma… it looks WORLDS better! (8/27/12)

Whew, what a ride August has been!

Ryan is doing so, so much better than he was at the beginning of the month… but we still have a long road of recovery ahead of us. We’re now facing a lot of nerve pain (like, extreme shooting pain up and down his lower legs all the way to his toes, sometimes coming from nowhere, and other times due to our dog body slamming herself), and the doctor warned that this nerve pain can last a few months, to even a year or two. We’re hoping for the best, though. Only time will tell!

So yes, as you can see, August has been quite a busy month.

It’s actually been quite the challenge for me to balance everything.

On top of working full time, finishing up my 140-hour practicum, and taking care of Ryan, I’ve spent the past month trying to write the first draft of my Master’s Paper.

Trying is the key word, here.

It was due August 21st, a self-set deadline I established for myself knowing I wanted it done and out of the way before my two Fall classes started on 8/21/12. (The final paper is due November 21st if I want to graduate in time, and we have to go through a few drafts before turning it in).

When Ryan’s complications came about, my attention to schoolwork completely fell by the wayside. In fact, I don’t even think I started writing until the 18th of August. My focus was completely on taking care of Ryan and getting him to and from all of his physical therapy appointments and follow-ups with the doctor. Well that, and working. I’m only human.

Thankfully, I have a super-understanding advisor and she told me to just turn it into her whenever I could. So, after spending this past Saturday (I was up until 4AM) typing and editing away, I finally got my paper turned in Sunday evening! All 41 pages of it.

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Going cross-eyed

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The final (first) draft! DONE.

I can’t even express into words how good it feels to know the first draft is done. I don’t think I’ve stopped smiling.

Also? I’m pretty sure I need a vacation.

Thankfully, we have something fun to look forward to this Labor Day weekend. Ryan has gotten the “ok” from the doctor to travel to Cincinnati with me (he’ll be elevating in the backseat, probably feeding Happy peanut-butter with a golden spoon from a crystal bowl), and we are attending our first wedding shower!!!!!!!!

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We are both *beyond* excited and can’t wait to be surrounded by friends and family and relax after such a trying month. Only four more days until we hit the road!

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Engagement Picture Montage

For me, pictures are a way of capturing the essence of a moment in time. Throughout my 26 short years, I’ve come to realize that our time on this earth only lasts so long.  Pictures allow us to preserve memories when they otherwise might have slipped our minds.

I love reflecting on the scrapbooks I made during my high school days, and this blog is turning out to be no different. Ryan values photography just as much as I do, and this is why we decided a photographer was one of our top priorities when we began wedding planning back in January.

I’m not exactly sure how we came across Audrey Snow Photography. I believe I simply stumbled across a picture on a wedding blog somewhere, and clicked over to her website. A few minutes spent perusing Audrey’s work and I immediately knew I had to get in touch with her. Her style is incredible, and talking with her on the phone felt like chatting with an old high school friend.

Audrey and her husband, Michael, are incredible people. They both have such kind hearts, and they absolutely love what they do. In fact, they met through the craft of photography a few years back, and are now growing their own business together.

I am already so grateful to Audrey and her husband. The afternoon and evening Ryan and I spent with them has turned out to be one of my favorite memories with Ryan. Ever.

We had so much fun gallivanting all over Sanibel and Captiva Islands.  I am so glad that we have these memories captured on camera for us to look at for years to come. New memories to reflect on. Just like those preserved in my high school scrapbooks.

If this experience is any indicator of how fun and exciting June 15th, 2013 is going to be… I cannot flippin’ wait!!

Audrey and Michael met us at my  mom’s condo on Sanibel Island. We started off taking some pictures on the beach and on the grounds of the resort (with little Miss Happster by our side!). From there, we moved on to Blind Pass, an area surrounding the bridge that connects Sanibel and Captiva islands. We had a blast shooting pictures at the marina (I may or may not have narrowly escaped falling in), and later headed to the beach for some pictures at sunset.

So without further adieu, here are our engagement pictures!

(Fair warning, don’t go cross-eyed, there are quite a few!!).

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I hope you enjoyed!

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Love.

My my. I have to say… I am in a very good place right now.

I know it’s been a while since I’ve updated this thing, but I just had to pop in and capture the feelings I’ve been having lately.  Bottle up these emotions, if you will.

These past few months have been incredible. Pretty much since the holiday season started, I’ve had this new pep in my step. Truth be told, I think a lot has to do with my new job with the National Marrow Donor Program (NMDP). I cannot express into words how fulfilling my work is, especially now that I am actually handling donors on my own.

Ever since I got the lead about the NMDP Workup Specialist position back in late November, I’ve had this fire burning inside of me. Receiving that email from my classmate back in December — a woman who I had only spent a few days with during my orientation in Chapel Hill back in August… a woman who shared an academic advisor with me… a woman who worked for the NMDP’s Puerto Rico office… a woman who took the time to hunt down my email address and tell me about an opening in the Charlotte Office… (and inform me that she had already sent them my information and that they were wanting to see my resume) — really got my wheels turning. I just knew the position she described was something I needed to look into.

And not only look into, but highly consider.

Most importantly, though, the organization as a whole really resonated with me.

After chatting with her on the phone later that night, my mind was made up. And now? Here I am… a month and a half into my new career, an organization I can see myself working for many, many years down the road.

In fact, quite a handful of my coworkers have been with the NMDP for 10+ years. The woman in the office next to mine? 17 years. And my senior regional manager? 20+. That kind of commitment to one organization, or one company, is almost unheard of these days. This just shows how mission-driven the people behind the NMDP truly are.

They’re not there for work…or for any ‘ole 9-5 job.

They’re there because it’s a mission they genuinely care about.

And the more I talk to people, the more I realize it’s a mission a lot of people care about. Think about it — who doesn’t want to have the opportunity to be a hero for someone… to be the match and save a person’s life with a bone marrow donation? I get chills every time I make that phone call. To let someone know that they have the chance to give someone that gift of life… the gift of time. Something tells me this feeling won’t be wearing off anytime soon.

Suffice it to say, I seriously love my job. My life has taken on a new meaning.

It actually amazes me the path my life has taken post college. How so many things have come as a result of “chance.” Things like… volunteering for a year with the AmeriCorps. Meeting my friends in Charlotte. Meeting Ryan. Finding Happy. Getting into my dream MPH program. Landing this new job. If I had gone to a graduate program immediately after I graduated undergrad, my life would not be what it is right now. And that is so crazy to think about. I would not have my life any other way. I am so happy. So blessed.

Don’t get me wrong, though. I have my down days, too. (Hello, flashback to this past weekend of cranking out a midterm before midnight on a Sunday… not my cup of tea). I’ve had hard days and frustrating moments. Hell, there were tears this past weekend. Ryan sure is a lucky guy, let me tell you. Working fulltime and going to school is one heck of a balancing act. And sadly, those papers don’t just write themselves.

What’s nice, though, is I feel like I’ve finally nailed down a true balance. I absolutely LOVE going to work, and have my mind completely submerged in the tasks that need to be accomplished. I’ve gone through *tons* of training and it’s all paying off now that I am taking care of my own donors. Knowing that what I do when I get to my office each day — the steps it takes to walk donors through the process of a bone marrow transplant — changes peoples’ lives… is an incredible feeling. The mission surrounding the NMDP and the Be The Match Registry is something that I am truly drawn towards and stand behind 100%.

And I think the feeling is mutual. Because last week when I came to work, I found this sitting on my desk…

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Talk about ways to make a girl feel valued in the workplace!

Okay, so maybe it was Valentine’s day… but I still was super shocked to see it on my desk when I got there in the morning.

What shocked me even more though? Was when this was delivered to my desk later in the morning…

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Trifecta of perfection: flowers, chocolates, and an assortment of bath bubbles!

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Blooms opening up

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happiness!

Talk about love, people. I had no clue this was coming. NONE. Ryan and I had already celebrated Valentine’s Day the weekend before.

In fact, they’re still sitting on my desk, over a week later.

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You, my precious flowers, can hang in my office for as long as your little hearts desire.

Seriously, what a thoughtful guy.

And you know what else I’ve found surprising?

The fact that Ryan is so into wedding planning.

Seriously… I love it! For a gal who is running around like a chicken with her head cut off for most of her waking hours (between work, school, and writing papers out the eyeballs…) it’s nice to have a partner who is just as invested in wedding-stuff as you are (er, well, want to be… as time allows).

In fact, as I am typing this, Ryan is doing his graphic-designer thing and creating our wedding website!! He’s been asking me for about a week when we could create it, and I just haven’t had the time to focus on “wedding things” (did I mention  it’s midterms?). So basically, Ryan has free reign to do whatever he wants in creating the website. He also says he wants to create our Save-The-Dates. And possibly the invitations. As I’m sure y’all know by now, he’s quite the clever guy.  I’m excited to see what he comes up with Smile

In other news, we were able to nail down a lot of things when we took our trip to Florida to visit my mom back in January.

Namely… our ceremony site/reception venue (and therefore our food, cake, and day-of-coordinator… as it’s an *amazing* packaged deal!), officiant, DJ, photographer, videographer, rehearsal dinner locale, and MY DRESS!

OMG, y’all. I am in love with my dress. Completely. It’s gorgeous. My mom cried. I never wanted to take it off. There are pictures of it on my iPhone. These pictures may or may not get looked at multiple times a week. Don’t judge me. It’s that gorgeous.

Ryan and I also had an engagement photo-shoot with our photographer while we were down there, and we should be getting those photos back in a couple of weeks! We absolutely adored our photographer and her husband. They are one extremely talented couple.

Oh, and I guess we secured one more important thing while we were in Florida –  our wedding date!!!! I’ll save all of these wedding-related details for another post, though… as this one is already super long.

Let’s just say… June 15th, 2013 is going to be an amazing day.

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